Hindi → English transcript

Our daughter finished her MBBS,

did her MD, and is practicing very well in a big hospital.

We used to think that for her we would quickly, easily find a match.

She has such good qualifications, she is so beautiful, slim and trim, and smart.

At first, my daughter used to say,“ Mom, I’m a doctor,

so my thoughts will only match with another doctor.”

So we started looking only at doctors. Now when we look at doctors, we find some…

some flaw, some… by the time they are 32, 33 years old, they have become doctors.

After so many years of practice and studies, there is no doubt about that.

So we also felt that if we look within the same profession,

it won’t even be difficult for us to search.

That doctors we are finding are 33… 32– 33 years old, 34 years old,

and they really have started to look like uncles. I mean, that one…

now these days the problem is this, if you do it at 25– 26 years,

there is a problem.

So children do not have that much thought and understanding, after that,

by around twenty- nine or thirty,

their thinking develops a bit more,

then their preferences and choices and… and everything become different.

Now when they are thirty- two, thirty- three years old,

when they become fully mature and understand how the world works,

by then they start looking like aunties and uncles. Now our daughter…

Our daughter, along with her studies, also paid attention to fitness, and we also…

our genetics also play a role. And everyone… boys of thirty- two, thirty- three,

thirty- four years, some are bald, some have lost their hair,

someone has become fat, someone… I mean, now for our daughter,

she should at least look somewhat decent too.

Now the doctors we were finding as grooms were just like that,

so then we said, fine, let’s look in other fields.

Look, your brother’s views could match with anyone, right? So we…

now we’ve started looking in other professions too. The same problem is happening,

we can’t find a single decent boy.

There was one who was a bit smart and good- looking,

but he didn’t have any educational qualifications,

so the girl didn’t like him that way.

When we show the photos to the relatives,

they start taunting us right away, “ Oh, your girl is so beautiful…

she’s beautiful and smart,

so why are you looking at uncles and old men for her?” Now what can we do?

It’s not in our hands. All we can do is look and talk.

So I’ve explained it to her,“ Child,

make a little compromise somewhere.” You can adjust a bit on looks,

but nature is everlasting, in the end it’s the nature…

The one you have to live with,

only their nature will really matter to you. Now, as for appearance, height- weight,

features, all this… this is not in our hands at all.

If it were, we would all have improved ourselves,

whoever wanted whatever features would have changed themselves. I mean, people…

there is just no glow left on the children’s faces.

If boys aged thirty- two, thirty- five, thirty- five are like this,

then by fifty- five…

by fifty to sixty, who knows, they will be absolutely…

Who knows, they may start looking like old men,

and then walking around and all that… What effect is this,

is it the effect of the air and water, this is becoming very difficult.

I mean the kids want looks,

the kids want qualifications too, they want everything.

Now we are looking, searching,

we will just have to keep searching,

that is the only solution we have.

Till now we have not even shortlisted anyone. And if we like someone a little,

then when we tell the relatives,

they turn up their noses and find faults. It is the same,

we are trying from our side,

let's see how long it takes to get it.